What really defines ‘YOU’ as a person? In fact what defines a person? How would you define the various people you know? How would you define yourself? By how neatly or shabbily he/she is dressed? Or is it the way they talk, their language, their manners, their etiquettes? Is it their grades or their jobs? Or is it their talkative and friendly nature?
The things that a person does, no matter how small or big, is what defines a person. It is not necessary that the way you define yourself is the same as anyone else would. Sometimes we define ourselves not as the person we are but as a person we want to aim to be or a person we wish to be. We behave differently in different situations with different people.
When you are asked to define your best friend or your close relative; you talk about the good points first then about the bad ones. And maybe you won’t even talk about the bad ones, even if you have had a fight with them. We have always heard that Good prevails over Bad. And it’s true isn’t it? When we describe the people close to our heart, we might mention their cons but we don’t judge them or change our equation with them. We just accept those facts and move on. When meeting new people we don’t usually do this. But slowly as our walls go down and we let our ‘weird’ out and get comfortable with them.
The way a person dresses up or the way the person presents himself/herself does not define them. Don’t judge the book by its cover right! If a person talks to loud doesn’t mean they want attention, they maybe just want their voice to be heard. They probably have remained silent for too long, or they just are loud. And vice versa. The language a person speaks does not matter. What they talk about matters. It does not matter if their education was in some other language. The way they excelled in it does. Their perfection in the language matters.
A person who has bad manners is obviously avoided. But that person should not be judged on it constantly. Maybe it was just a bad day. It’s okay if someone does not know their table manners. A person who abuses a lot is not necessarily a bad person. It’s probably their frustration. Or maybe it’s just them!
It’s not necessary that everyone will excel at studying. If everyone excelled at studying, you wouldn’t have any great fashion designers, athletes, actors, directors, play writes, DJs, etc. You don’t have to excel in studying. You just have to excel in what you want to. It won’t be easy, but then neither is life. Everyone has a struggle. It’s what makes us who we are.
If a person does not talk a lot. He/she is probably an introvert and not a person with too much attitude. If a student does not answer in a class, maybe they are just shy. Once you know that person well they might be one of the funniest people you have ever met. Just because a person makes stupid jokes or acts stupid, does not mean that they can’t top their grade.
Everyone has their reasons. Everyone has their bad days and their good ones. It does not make them an object of discussion. It just makes them human.
[Written by Sara Jain]